Father and Daughter

This post is like having a dream - the combination of many things that have happened today.

Today, after having lunch with a dear friend of mine, my mind was busy thinking about step families. They are often misunderstood, judged, and unfamiliar territory for all parties involved.

I technically have many "steps" in my family. Both of my parents are remarried. However, my Mom has been with Mick since as long as I can remember. My dad on the other hand has been married a few time, and has been with his current wife, Lani, for about 8 years. Both Mick and Lani have children too. However, these children have never lived under a roof with me, and so I don't really even know them on more than an acquaintance type basis.

Anyway, tonight I was busy downloading songs on iTunes. One song that I downloaded, along with the conversation from lunch, is what is driving this post.

Are you following? That's okay if you aren't...I don't know quite where this is going....

Anyway, tonight, I downloaded the song "Father and Daughter" by Paul Simon. I have loved this song since the first time I heard it.

It reminds me of how I hope my father thinks of me. And, by father, I mean Mick.

Now, are you really confused? Let me explain.

Mick has been in my life for many years. We did not always get along well. In fact, I am sure that there were plenty of times that we both wished for a relationship with my mom that didn't include the other person.

But, luckily that never happened. My mom was amazing with walking that line between us, and eventually dissolving it.

He may not be my father by blood (I have one of those whom I also love - although we don't know each other on much more than a superficial level); but he definitely holds much of that place in my heart.

He supported me during school events - attending concerts, plays, and matches.
He helped (and still helps) me with cars -buying them, and fixing them when needed.
He was there on college move-in day, and on move-out day.
He walked me down the aisle, along with my number one fan, my mom!
He was at my high school and college graduation.
He was at the hospital when both children were born.
He is Grandpa to Tyler and Sophie (and they will never know any differently).
He loves me unconditionally!!

Thank you for being such a wonderful part of my life, and my family's life. I love you!